If you look like a man, I will call you dude. If you look like a woman, I will call you dude. If I can't tell what you are, I will call you dude. I seriously don't care what you identify as. But if you are definitely a man, or definitely a woman, and ask me to call you the opposite, I will say, "Dude! Whatever!"
And if you're gay, I don't care dude. Live your life and be happy. Just remember though....if you put your sexual preference out there be prepared for someone to not agree with you. Got it? Pretty simple, right?